If the April 16 ruse Michael T. Matthews concocted to persuade his girlfriend, Amy Marshall, that she must ship a child on a median at 108th and Broadway demonstrated something, it was that he is aware of her nicely.
Ms. Marshall, the senior director of nursing at Lenox Hill Hospital in Manhattan, is a former neonatal intensive care unit nurse.
“Never once has Amy run into a medical emergency in New York where paramedics weren’t already helping,” he mentioned. He staged one as a result of he was sure she would spring into motion. Also as a result of getting her into rescue mode freed him to shock her with a proposal, full with cheering New York City firefighters.
Mr. Matthews’s potential to foretell Ms. Marshall’s conduct didn’t occur in a single day. But his perception into her character was already constructing in 2018, a couple of months after they met at Lincoln Square Seminary, the Manhattan seminary the place Mr. Matthews taught youngsters a faith class. Ms. Marshall’s then 15-year-old son, James Mckay Marshall, was a scholar. After Ms. Marshall texted Mr. Matthews midsemester to ask whether or not James was paying consideration, they grew to become quick mates.
“She had asked whether he puts his phone away during class,” he mentioned. “I’m generally a defender of the students, so I said, ‘Well, I could see he was trying.’” Ms. Marshall sensed this response was pure diplomacy and she or he texted again, calling her son a harsh identify that took his trainer aback momentarily. Then, he mentioned, “I burst out laughing.”
That was spring; by summer season, they have been hanging out at a New Jersey summer season camp in Hope, N.J., the place each served as youth leaders for 60 highschool ladies. Mr. Matthews would quickly grew to become assured sufficient in his evaluation of Ms. Marshall’s persona to put in writing her on-line profile for Mutual, the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints courting app.
Ms. Marshall and Mr. Matthews, the founding father of the Mobile Culture, a social media advertising firm, each stay on Manhattan’s Upper West Side. Ms. Marshall, 45, is divorced and has three youngsters. Mr. Matthews, 42, has by no means been married. His reluctance so far her was skilled. “I thought of her as James’s mom,” he mentioned. But then he began trying out her suitors on Mutual. “I got depressed for every woman out there,” he mentioned. “Like, this is what they have to choose from? It made me feel attractive.”
By October, his emotions for her had turned a nook. “She’s beautiful, and we have the same values,” he mentioned. “I realized I was attracted to her.” At their first date that month, to an area movie neither remembers, “things got cuddly,” Ms. Marshall mentioned. “From that moment on, everything changed.”
But to not the skin world. “We kept everything very secret,” Ms. Marshall mentioned. “We didn’t hold hands for a year, I think because I wanted to make sure it was serious before I told my kids.”
By the tip of 2019, Ms. Marshall’s youngsters had found out the character of the connection (they permitted). The subsequent 12 months, throughout the pandemic, the couple began speaking about marriage.
When they set a May 2021 wedding ceremony date in January, she hadn’t heard the phrases “Will you marry me?” Mr. Matthews nonetheless hadn’t proposed months later when he scheduled an April 16 engagement images session. Ms. Marshall agreed to the shoot anyway.
And then, on the best way, she was ambushed. The pregnant girl Mr. Matthews enlisted to faux labor was the cousin of one among Ms. Marshall’s colleagues. The hearth division (F.D.N.Y. Battalion 11 Engine 76 & Ladder 22) participated on the situation that in the event that they have been referred to as away for an actual emergency, the gig was up. Ms. Marshall already had latex gloves on and was ready to ship a child when she understood she had been duped. By then, Mr. Matthews was on one knee behind her with an engagement ring. “The adrenaline was pumping,” she mentioned. Through her exasperation, she said yes.
On May 6, Mr. Matthews and Ms. Marshall have been married by Mr. Matthews’s finest good friend, Brent Thurgood, a Universal Life minister, within the Conservatory Garden at Central Park. Fifty visitors attended.
“The great thing is that 90 percent of them were fully vaccinated,” Mr. Matthews mentioned later. Had any of them required medical therapy even so, they have been in all probability in the fitting place.