“As a sub, I have this need, this fetish, to hand over everything,” stated R.J., who’s homosexual and single, and estimated that he has spent greater than $150,000 on dozens of money masters since he began. “It’s this feeling of giving up complete control, of someone having ownership over you. I find that really arousing.”
The feeling is echoed by different monetary submissives. “This idea of giving their money away, and not knowing what’s going to happen — it’s the ultimate surrender of power, and it’s very liberating for them,” stated Dr. Hammack, the psychology professor.
Dr. Hammack stated that monetary domination might help folks combating management points. “I believe that findom can actually be a really healthy way to manifest the part of human nature that is about power asymmetry and hierarchy,” he stated. “It becomes a context for healthy growth and development.”
Financial domination helps Charlie, 29, a gross sales supervisor in Ohio, determine as a transgender girl, at the same time as she presents as a person in her “vanilla” life, she stated. King Kourt, her findomme, has full entry to one in every of her financial institution accounts, she stated, and as a part of a “consensual blackmail” association, King Kourt threatens to reveal Charlie as a girl in trade for cash.
The concept, each stated, is to encourage Charlie to dwell as she needs in public in addition to non-public.
Giving up monetary management can also assist some finsubs change into extra empathetic. William M., 31, a know-how supervisor for a college system, stated that he spends $300 a month on Queen Astro, 31, a findomme from Los Angeles. Every time he sends cash, she publicly belittles him on Twitter or degrades him on Skype.
“I used to be much more self-centered,” William stated. “As I’ve explored this fetish, I’ve definitely become more aware of other people, their feelings and putting them before myself,” including that he sacrifices private comforts like new winter boots and an air-conditioner to maintain his findomme glad. “My domme definitely comes first,” he stated.